Diagnoses are a form of curse. My deepest hope is to wake up our mental health industry to this truth.
The most important part to the success of a curse is for the person to believe the curse so they will surrender power to it.
Diagnoses are effective curses because they are given to you by authorities you have been conditioned to trust.
Once you have a diagnosis, you take it on as part of your identity, and accept the prognosis as your fate.
Once you make the diagnosis part of your identity, you will defend it as part of yourself.
The diagnosis gives you an excuse to stop trying to change the conditions that led to the diagnosis.
You feel powerless to do anything about it, and do not trust yourself to challenge the diagnosis or the expert that gave it.
In fact, we are told that these authorities are the only true path to addressing your physical, mental, and emotional needs.
And the authority of these experts is reinforced by a legal system that punishes anyone saying there are alternative perspectives.
Strikingly similar to the “Jesus is the one and only way” mentality of Christianity. Interesting huh?
When I was given a diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) by a well-meaning psychotherapist over 15 years ago, I felt relieved. I finally knew what was “wrong” with me so I could begin healing.
That’s what I initially thought.
What actually happened was that the diagnosis became part of my identity for myself, my family, and anyone who learned of it.
The diagnosis became a warning label on the box it put me in that said “don’t believe what she says, she is crazy”, or “don’t worry it’s not your fault, it’s hers.” That label was a convenient trash bucket for people in my family to avoid their own soul curriculum by blaming me.
In that trash heap, I wanted to die. I fully felt my own unworthiness, shame, guilt, self-judgment, and powerlessness to do anything about it. I mean, my therapist said it would never get better.
Good thing I got rebellious and started studying with shamanic teachers who showed me I had been cursed by a medical system that trained therapists to perform curses while thinking they were helping me. Talk about major gaslighting!
It took me ten years of deep shamanic healing work to overcome the damage caused to me and my family system. It’s not all the way healed either. One of my relatives became a therapist and has treated me with incredible disrespect because of the way she perceives people who have been diagnosed BPD (and this is the client she serves by the way).
What I discovered was that I am a healer, medicine woman, messenger, and shadow worker, and I needed to master my thoughts, emotions, and energy.
Be careful who you give authority over your consciousness. Be careful who you believe.
Listen and trust your inner guidance. You are not broken. You are having an experience that is giving you an opportunity to understand and love yourself.
Loving yourself is an inside job. That’s why my teaching is called “Inner Medicine”.
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